Letting go of things is something I’m not very good at. The time I stood in line at the cinema and had coins thrown at me by a boy who told me it was for my plastic surgery; I’ve never forgotten that. I’m not particularly bitter now but that said, if he turned out to be rich and successful I’d be rather pissed off. Would I like to see him suffering? Well, actually yes. That makes me a bad person, I acknowledge that, but I wonder who else’s childhood he made a misery. I shouldn’t let people like that win. He was young at the time and probably didn’t know any better but that still doesn’t make it right. I was a mischievous little cow at times but I never stood in front of people and said to their face that they were a freak. I wouldn’t have said it behind their back either. Maybe because my family taught me to respect others, maybe because they loved me, I had the stability of that. Perhaps he came from such a horrific background he had no one to teach him how to be a good human. I guess if you have no one to set an example you have to make your own rules. Either way, he was still a horrible little shit. It’s time to let go it, no amount of thinking will change it. It was 30 years ago but I still remember it like it was yesterday.
It’s stupid. I can still recall times when I’ve let people get to me. Like the time the lady at a well known cosmetics counter told me she couldn’t give me a makeover because there wouldn’t be any point. Apparently having a birthmark means you can’t wear mascara. Why did I let that woman’s words get to me? For the record, I wear mascara. I wear eyeliner too. Fuck it, I confess, I wear foundation. I wear makeup. My name is Lady Wood and I wear makeup. I don’t cover my birthmark either. There, I said it. Big sin. I don’t cover it up. And the why the fuck should I? I’m not going to hide away from people who don’t want to look at me. In fact, any one who doesn’t like it can go fuck themselves. A miserable lonely, unfulfilling, non ejaculating fuck all alone. I hope that little wanker from the cinema has a tiny maggot and a very disatisfying sex life.
Wow, I’m such a bitch and my god it feels good. I went to an assessment this morning at the mental health team. I let out everything that I’ve been keeping in. All the hurt, all the thoughts, all the bad shit from the last 3 years came tumbling out over the course of 90 minutes. It’s taken 3 years to accept that the actions of one person have nearly destroyed my mind. I don’t blame them for what happened. The person who attacked me was not in their right mind. I was alone and I was vulnerable. How we deal with what happens to us in the present determines how we deal with the future (stating the obvious, yes I know but I’m not a smart person and this only just occurred to me) and I’ve not yet come to terms with it. It’s my fault and it’s time to get to grips with it and put it behind me. Like cinema boy, and counter bitch, it’s over. Nothing I can do or say will change what either of them said or did. Holding on to it is pointless. It’s wasted emotions.
They probably don’t even remember me so why am I wasting my thoughts on them? There are so many better and beautiful things in this world that deserve my attention. My amazing family and friends and especially myself. Its time to stop caring about what strangers think and start caring about me. I’m not going to let a few narrow minded people dictate how I live my life. There are some truly wonderful people in this world, they’re the ones worth living for. Especially if I decide to live.
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