I did something today I never thought I’d do. Maybe I need the validation, maybe I need the sex. Maybe I need to know someone still actually wants me because I know, from where I’m standing, I’m unwantable.
I’m undesirable, a bore. Someone that doesn’t warrant or deserve love. I don’t even deserve sex. So I did what I swore I’d never do and texted an old fuck buddy.
Our last liaison was not so successful. After being cancelled on so many times, something to which I’m no stranger to, I decided that I couldn’t do it anymore. Not because of the sex. The sex was fun. It was adventurous, and made me feel good. But the fact I’d change my plans for him so many times and he’d let me down, I couldn’t handle the disappointment anymore. Not just once or twice. But nearly a whole summers worth. How we met that night was a fucking miracle in itself.
I know why I did it. You do strange things when you’re depressed. Trying to convince yourself that someone actually cares, when deep down, you know they actually don’t. Maybe I need to be fucked to get the demons out. To feel like I’m actually still a woman and not some freak. Not some experiment gone wrong.
Sex and depression aren’t easy. You want sex because you crave the touch of someone, but you’re so depressed you can’t imagine anyone wanting to actually be near you, let alone fuck you. When you’re actually in the mood and you find someone who you actually want to fuck, and fuck hard, all the cares and worries disappear and all there is, is you and them. Nothing else. No anxiety, no pain or hurt. Just two people, fucking each others brains out in a hot sweaty mess. But if you’re whacked out on antidepressants, chances are, you can’t do fuck all anyway.
I’ve been on and off antidepressants for nearly 3 months, and it’s really fucking hard. Trying to get through some days unmedicated is the hardest thing I’ve done. Especially the days when all I want to do is jump off a building . Let me tell you how tiring it is, trying to be happy. Trying to get through each day without wanting to die. It’s beyond exhausting. Sometimes knowing you can end it all is the only relief you get because you know the pain will end soon.
It’s a vicious circle. I stay off my meds because I want sex. But I don’t get any because the one man I’ve fancied in a long time, probably (and with good reason, because I’m a fuck up) hates my guts. So, get medicated. Because the pain of being hated is worse than wanting sex. Realising that man, doesn’t care, doesn’t want you anymore, maybe doesn’t even want to be friend. It’s soul destroying. But I still care. Always will. I can’t turn how I feel off like a tap.
So, go on the meds. But then, you don’t feel like having sex, because everything is numb. From your brain to your arse, you feel nothing. Although the pain of not being wanted is still there. That’s not numb yet. So keep taking the pills. And then in a moment of madness, get drunk and text your old fuck buddy, the one you thought you’d deleted. Wow what a plan. I’m really on the road to recovery here.
Who knows what’s next. A chance trip to meet up with someone who doesn’t even know how my age yet. And he’s somewhat younger. Imagine the shock when he realises I’m old. Maybe it’s time I became a slut again. Maybe get back to my hedonistic days of doing who I want, when I want and not caring about anyone. That seems to be the plan. Caring gets in the way. Gets you hurt. Especially when they don’t care back. Maybe just take whatever I can get and be done with it. Who knows if I’ll even meet up with old fuck buddy. Probably not. I never fucking learn.
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